I say life is better on this side of the bottle because I’ve been in the darkest depths of depression and addiction. Now I’m on the side of self worth, happy and healthy. I actually have a life. I enjoy waking up everyday. I can honestly say it’s way better over here. I don’t know if I’ll ever go back. I can’t make that promise. It’s a every day battle. But as of right now I have plans for this Christmas, next Christmas and the year after. You can get there too. All it takes is one ask for help. Reach out to someone, anyone. There’s people out there who want to and will help. You can do this. I believe in you..
The greatest gift of being set free from the chains that bind us, is that when we begin walking in a new direction, we find a world full of possibilities and the freedom to pursue them! This blog is all about this journey and what continues to be learned through it!
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Thursday, December 10, 2020
Times Own Plan
I say life is better on this side of the bottle because I’ve been in the darkest depths of depression and addiction. Now I’m on the side of self worth, happy and healthy. I actually have a life. I enjoy waking up everyday. I can honestly say it’s way better over here. I don’t know if I’ll ever go back. I can’t make that promise. It’s a every day battle. But as of right now I have plans for this Christmas, next Christmas and the year after. You can get there too. All it takes is one ask for help. Reach out to someone, anyone. There’s people out there who want to and will help. You can do this. I believe in you..
Monday, December 7, 2020
IS THAT THE SOUND...OF THE HOLIDAYS?!!
For some, this leads to a
sense of joy, excitement and anticipation – while for others it evokes feelings
of anxiety, guilt or remorse due to the memory of holidays past where active
addiction/alcoholism may have caused undo pain and ruin for those whom we love
and have held most dear. This pain can cause feelings of loneliness,
hopelessness or even relapse. But no matter what feelings or circumstances are
being experienced as the approaching holidays arrive ~ for ALL of us a genuine gladness and gratitude can be embraced.
Feelings of loneliness being replaced with connectedness; hopelessness being
replaced instead with hopefulness; and feelings of relapse being replaced with the
miracle of life and recovery. One might ask, “How is gladness and gratitude
possible in the midst of such struggles?” Well, we need only look at the immediate
blessings that exist before us:
Let’s start with the good news that this is a NEW season ~~ the years past are just that, “season’s gone by”. Recovery, (as in life), affords us the opportunity to have a “do over” or to “start a new”. The past holiday season could have been absolutely terrible…but that was last year. THIS is a new day and can truly be the beginning of fresh and wonderful memories! Some may ask, “How can I be happy because I am not even with my family now” or “I don’t have my home anymore” or “I have lost my job” or “I can’t buy gifts for everyone”. This does not mean that this season can’t be filled with beautiful and lasting memories. Gratitude is ALWAYS a good way to kick start ourselves into a different direction. Let’s look at a few of the things we can say we are grateful for today:
1. I am clean and sober!
2. I belong to a
fellowship of great people, many of whom are now dear friends. (Some might say,
“I don’t know anybody that well yet, how do I know I won’t stay lonely? How do
I know I will get close to people?) Because if we are clean/sober and are
practicing a program of recovery we find that we are NEVER alone again
3. I have
literally YEARS ahead of me – things WILL get better! (How do I know that?) Because NOTHING stays the same forever. If
things are bad…they logically have to get better. While in ourselves we are
limited and finite…we belong to a God that is infinite and limitless.
Another area of gratitude to
motivate those of us who have survived so much already….We are ALIVE! It is the easiest of blessings to take for
granted. I need only go out into the cool night air – feeling the breeze
blowing through my hair and against my face, gazing upon the moon and stars as
they cast their subtle light upon me, breathing in through my nostrils the
coolness of night and hearing the earth as it gives way beneath my feat as I
take in my surroundings on a late night stroll. It is in this moment that my
mind becomes profoundly aware of the greatest gift, the most tremendous of blessings,
causing my heart and mind cry out to my God ~ “Thank you that I am alive!”
Recovery has some important
principles to it that deserve application during the holiday season. One of the
most important truths we learn in recovery is that “feelings” don’t keep us
clean nor do they contribute in anyway to the growth and strengthening of my
spiritual condition. The only thing that does this is A C T I O N! We know the “actions” that keep us growing in
our recovery are things like, step work, sponsorship, prayer and service work.
Well this principle of action is a guaranteed successful tool in not only
“surviving the holidays”…but quite literally making them the BEST EVER! A principle we learn in
early recovery is that “self” is the root of our problems and that
“selflessness” is where our solution can be found. Well, you know the saying,
“We keep what we have by giving it away?” Along those same lines there is
another principle I have found to be true – “To get what we’ve never gotten or
to get back what we lost along the way, (perhaps hope, joy, peace, sanity or
maintained recovery through the holidays) ~ we
have only to get out of ourselves and try something new!!!
Here are some suggestions for staying clean & sober AND making
this the BEST holiday season EVER!
3. Be sure to have a listing of no less than 5 people with strong recovery time, and their contact information, to be able to reach out any time you may need them.
4. Provide YOUR number to at least ONE person who is "newer than you" that might need support during the holidays, so that you can be there for them!
5. Find out what events and needs Mandala Healing Center has, that you can get involved in and be of service to the patients at the property AND in the private Mandala Alumni FB Group
6. Reach out to your Mandala Alumni Family in the Facebook Group; Alumni ZOOM "Morning Coffee' Sat. 9am meeting; (OR) Text the Alumni Support Line for support and connection when needed!
7. Strive daily to do a random act of kindness - whether it is for a friend or a total stranger. (If you do it in secret, never telling a sole - God will know ~ and that is truly a wonderful experience!)
8. If you see a homeless person, smile at them...(they may have felt unnoticed for a long time)
9. Along those same lines...If you see someone who is hungry or thirsty ~ bring them some food or water.
10. Check out service opportunities where you can volunteer in your local community: A soup kitchen; Habitat for Humanity; The Angel Tree, (that provides toys for kids who won't have them otherwise) - Even if you can't afford to give you CAN afford to assist in volunteering to help gather the toys; or even figuring out your OWN charitable drive - like collecting sweaters, jackets or blankets to give tot he homeless on the streets.
11. If you are lonely...rather than waiting for someone to invite you somewhere, (they may assume you have somewhere to be)...why don't YOU be the one to give the invite! To either go out as a group somewhere or to come to your place for pizza, popcorn and a movie! Perhaps in doing so, you will give someone else a brighter day!
12. Leave a small gift for someone who serves you - perhaps a postal worker, gas station attendant, grocery store clerk, pastor or rabbi; perhaps a waiter or waitress where you frequently eat!
13. Make a FULL gratitude list of quite literally EVERYTHING you can think of! (From sunlight, to water, your breath, the wind, sight, sound, a mind that still works, finger and toenails; etc...)
14. On Hanukkah, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and/or New Year's Eve - Go to 12-step meetings and make a conscious effort to look for someone in need of support, then be the one who is there to offer YOUR hand to uplift that struggling member. ☺
15. If you are REALLY having a hard time, (as we sometimes do), and find YOU can't pull yourself out of the rut you are in...ask the God of your understanding to do for you what you can not do for yourself, by saying this: "God, please help me to see with Your eyes, hear with Your ears and love with Your heart today."
What a wondrous life! The
opportunity for a fresh start to live again…not one that we “deserved”, but
rather one that was freely given to us.
One of the most tremendous gifts I believe we have been given is in
being blessed with KNOWING our “life’s purpose”…(at least one of them). A lot of people in this world go to the
grave wondering why they were put on this earth in the first place and never
getting that answer. WE know at least one incredible purpose! It is something
that will lift me up and I can do anytime ~ and that is to be a vessel for my Higher Power and offer my hand to another sick and suffering addict/alcoholic
sharing with them the solution I have found by way of my experience, strength
and hope. How incredible is that?!! That someone like me with a medical
prognosis at 19, that I needed to live in a group home, be put on disability
and could never function independently – to being someone that the God of the
Universe would actually use to provide hope, love joy and a working solution
that would change the lives of the hopeless!
It is my most sincere and
heart felt wish that this holiday season will be your very best. God bless you
all!!!
©2009-2021 Rebecca Balko
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